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Communication – we all assume we’re great at it; but can you be better?

We know that if you’re reading this, along with being a better communicator, you likely also want to be a better leader, innovator, trailblazer… essentially, you want to become a Mindfluencer. So we’ll cut to the chase here:

You can do all the personal and professional development you want, you’ll still only ever be as great as you can communicate.

^ famous words by… us ????

Seriously though, yes, working on your tonality, body language, words and everything else you typically read about when it comes to communication, will help. But we want to encourage you to look a little deeper than that and go internal before you start shifting things external.

A communicator that is not regulated will emotionally react to a scenario that throws them off balance mentally or emotionally. Perhaps they’ve got a lot on behind the scenes, or maybe you’ve hit a nerve with them – bottom line is: they’ll likely deliver their message well off target. And no one will be better off because of it.

A regulated communicator on the other hand will be calculated, concise and will have the ability to intelligently respond. Oh god, just let those words weave around the million communication scenarios you experience everyday – how different would they play out if people were intelligently responding? Almost enough to make a grown adult drool with desire, am I right?

Okay, okay – I hear you, “cut to the chase!”

Here are our top 3 tips to switch from emotionally reacting to intelligently responding:

1. Stop taking everything so god damn personally.

   Yep, you heard us. Stop. Pause. Take a breath.

   The reason you feel personally attacked right now, is because you have attached your opinion to your identity. So now when someone disagrees with your opinion, you’re assuming they are attacking your character, they’re not. Relax. Take a breath. And instead ask yourself, ‘what specifically am I feeling right now? And where in my body am I feeling it?”. Get curious around your personal contribution to this being a problem for you. Your perception is potentially tricking you here.

2. Breathe.

   Sounds straight forward but did you know that majority of people do not breathe in the most effective way? Try it now. Notice your breath before making any changes, notice your posture, the depth of your breath (does it stay within your chest or come down to your belly?), are you breathing through your mouth or nose? There are so many factors to consider, as our breath is the direct link to our nervous system regulation (aka the difference between fight or flight within our bodies).

   Give this exercise a go: 5 seconds breathing in through the nose, 5 seconds breathing out through your nose. Repeat 5 times. Feeling more grounded and aligned by the second, aren’t you?

3. Power of the pre-frame

   If you find yourself in a heightened scenario, kudos to you for having the self awareness to recognise it! The next step is to ask for the space if you need it. This doesn’t have to be a dramatic showcase declaring that you need to get your shit together – it can be a simple, “hmm, you’ve caught me off guard here (insert name), do you mind if I get back to you on this one?”. Sure beats an emotional, reactive encounter any day of the week. The person asking the question will feel valued because you’re putting in effort to respond, and you’ll feel safe to process whatever is going on on your side of the camp.

Truth is, being regulated and improving your communication skills – needs to move up the long list of your to-do’s. We guarantee it will make everything else easier.

So, share this with your team and go take a breath (or 5 – with intention ????).

Let’s do great things.

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